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Reliant reviews program applications and accepts the event participants. If there are no concerns then Reliant will accept the applicant without any further steps needed.  (The director can also request that they see the list of everyone who is ready to be approved by Reliant to confirm their acceptance). This page outlines the steps taken for applications that have concerns. If Reliant sees anything of concern with an applicant, Reliant event coordinator (Sarah) will send an email to the appropriate program director to inform them of the specific concern. 

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CONFIDENTIALITY AGREEMENT

There is one important caveat to these concerns...before Reliant can move forward with:

  1. Sharing the concern with the appropriate program director 
  2. Pursuing a local pastoral interview with the applicant's pastor, or
  3. Follow up with their named reference(s) given by the applicant


Reliant needs to first verify that the program participant's application shows that they have responded with a YES to the Confidentiality Agreement on the event application.  (We have added this new question to the application in the AGREEMENT Section asking for the participant's permission to discuss their application answers with their local pastor or named reference.) We will be required to honor their answer.  If they respond NO, then Reliant will inform the program Director that we see a concern but since they have answered the Confidentiality question with NO we do not have permission to discuss this further.  Reliant will then give their recommendation to the program director who can decide if they would  like to move forward with the acceptance. 

PARENTAL CONCERNS

In 2017 there was only one participant that Reliant choose not to accept and that was due to a parent saying “absolutely No” to their child attending Honduras Leadership Training. 

The only case that Reliant would say absolutely NO to accepting an applicant, is in cases such as where the parent has clearly stated that in no way they want their son/daughter to attend LT. It would say on the application "WE HAVE PERSONALLY ADVISED OUR SON/DAUGHTER NOT TO PARTICIPATE FOR THE FOLLOWING REASONS".  and an example of a reason would be... "I have read that this location has a high crime rate and as her mom, I am NOT OK with this."  In the case of a parent saying no way they absolutely can not go, then Reliant cannot accept them due to insurance liability reasons.  

In the scenario of parental concerns, Reliant will ask the local pastor or director to follow up with parent and probably follow up with the applicant to help relieve concerns.  Emails and documentation will be needed to confirm that parents are willing to move forward with their child’s participation in the program.  If the parent has clearly written “No, my child may not attend”, Reliant and the church/network must respect the desires of the parent and will unfortunately not be able to accept the applicant into the program due to insurance and liability reasons.

In general, most parents say they have concerns and those are usually adequately addressed after the parents have a discussion with the director.  You may see written on the application: "WE ARE NOT OPPOSED TO OUR SON/DAUGHTER PARTICIPATING, BUT WE HAVE THE FOLLOWING RESERVATIONS THAT WE SIMPLY WANT TO MAKE RELIANT AWARE OF"....... and that usually follows with a question or concern from the parent. Reliant will then send an email to the director to ask that the director follow up with the parent to discuss and seek to resolve the reservations/concerns.

Conditionally Accepted with Parental Concerns:

Hello!

Thank you for applying to the ___LT program administrated by Reliant. At this point, you should have received a general acceptance email from the ___ LT program.

We appreciate the fact that you were open and even willing to meet and discuss your parental concerns with your local pastor or spiritual reference.  We are thankful that you along with your LT directors have expressed commitment to agreeing to the following three conditions to help ease those concerns given by your parents.   

  1. Calling someone if feeling tired while driving on the commute. Create a list so he knows who to call first and make those on his list aware of his commuting times.
  2. Having a LT staffer ask weekly about his energy level and hold him accountable.
  3. We highly recommend that Alex follow his parents request for him to consider spending a night at home in Saginaw weekly.

Therefore, we want to inform you that Reliant is conditionally accepting you into the LT program with full knowledge of these concerns knowing that your in agreement with these three things as a “condition” for your ongoing participation in the Michigan LT Program. Conditional acceptance means that Reliant reserves the right to continue to monitor your situation, make suggestions, and even make the recommendation to lower your involvement with the program if necessary.   Reliant reserves the right, in cooperation with New Life Church, to withdrawn you from the LT program if we see the commute negatively affecting you or your safety.  If the LT director feels that you are not following the conditions agree upon above, and therefore potentially compromising your safety (which is first and foremost). 

We encourage you to please ask for help and accountability this summer.  Please be open with your friends, Reliant missionaries attending the program with you, and your LT program leaders. If you have any questions along the way please don’t hesitate to ask. We pray that you will see God do amazing things in your life this summer.


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Parent/Guardian Notification Form

  • If the participant is under 18 a parental notification form is required. The parents will also have to fill out and sign both the medical disclosure and the liability waiver. 
  • If the student is over 18, but under 21 and still financially dependent on their parents/guardians the parental notification form and packet will be sent to their parents/guardians.  
  • If the participant is over 21 they do not need a parental notification form and no email will be sent to the parents.  You will see it say this on their application: PARENTAL NOTIFICATION FORM NOT NEEDED-OVER 21.
  • Also, if the participant answers the questions on their application as YES to over 18, NO to parents claiming on taxes and NO to parents financially support me they are considered completely financially independent from their parents and they will not need a parental notification form and no email is sent to their parents.  You will see it say this on their application: PARENTAL NOTIFICATION FORM NOT NEEDED- FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT.


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Why do we do the parent/guardian notification form? We have set up the 21 age not for legal reasons, but as a goodwill gesture towards the parents.  We want to make sure that at this time in their life where they can still be dependent on parents for schooling, etc. that we have received the parents blessing for them to spend their summer at our training. We want to make sure that the parents are supportive and behind the decision and not surprised when the student informs their parents where they are headed for the summer.  We just wanted to make sure the parents have been informed and are ok with the decision.  We picked 21 as age because they are mostly still in school until then and still under the support of the parent.  There is a place on the application for the student to say they are no longer supported in any way financially by the parent and if they choose that then the parent is not contacted for consent and their consent is not needed to complete the application.  




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ACCEPTANCE OF A MINOR

There have been times where a participant under 18 desires to attend the program.  In the case of the Collegiate LT program this happens often with children of Reliant missionaries who are also attending the program with their parents wanting to be participants. The YMCA has been known to hire participants under the age of 18 for the Collegiate LT participants. However, the YMCA is not legally allowed to let them live in their provided employee housing. In this case, if a director wants the minor to attend the program they will need to find separate housing for that participant. In the case of a Reliant missionary son/daughter, the participant can live outside of the dorms on YMCA property with their parents.  If this is not the case, the director will need to discuss the living situation options for the minor with Reliant before moving forward with finding housing off YMCA property as this is a higher liability for all.  Here is an example of a liability form created for a minor staying off site. A special waiver will need to be created with specifics of location, dates, transportation expected to and from,  etc. for each one of these unique circumstances that will need to be signed by both parent and minor.

  Reliant Release and Liab Waiver for Minor Example

CONCERNED APPLICATIONS

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Reliant would prefer to leave the overall acceptance criteria up to the program directors and local pastors; however, there are certain issues that Reliant must be involved and follow up with in order to protect both our partner churches/networks and Reliant form liability, risk and legal issues. 

ACCEPTANCE FOR PARTICIPANTS WITH NO CONCERNS

Reliant will automatically accept all participants that have no concerns on their application. However, the director may request that all acceptance names first be sent to them to confirm their acceptance prior to officially being accepted. 

ACCEPTANCE DECIDED ON A RELIANT LEVEL

There are a few smaller more frequently seen concerns listed below that typically appear on applications. It is Reliant’s understanding that in these scenarios a director and/or local pastor does not need to be notified and that acceptance is considered approved without notifying the church/network and is simply accepted with no questions by Reliant.  The director may also request that all acceptance names first be sent to them to confirm their acceptance prior to officially being accepted. 

  • If a participant mentions that they have struggled with slipping once or twice with underage drinking 

  • If they have slipped once sexual purity but it is no longer a struggle

  • If they struggle with masturbation but have accountability


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What happens if an applicant lies on their assessment? 

For reference, there was an applicant who lied on their application and was caught due to a discrepancy between what the LT applicant said and the spiritual reference said. 

This was the discussion/decision result.

"We know that we love all these folks and want the best for them spiritually - but our responsibility is really just to determine if they are suitable for LT. At some point what we have to decide is......is knowingly lying on your application a disqualifying behavior or not? I like how we allowed there be some space for explanation (possibilities of miscommunication etc...) but I’m not sure exactly what mitigating circumstances were presented here that we would determine a ‘redo’ is in order. As a read the email thread what is saw was... this participant confessed after they got caught & feels bad.  The church leaders like this participant and believe in them (which is wonderful but not surprising). I’m not all that excited about trying to determine the sincerity of an applicant’s repentance.  I’m not sure we would ever be able to determine that - especially from afar - and I’m not even sure it’s our place. But I’d probably lean more towards a policy of - in the absence of extenuating circumstances - deceit in your LT application will result in a denial of admission / deferral til the following year."

Therefore, it was agreed upon that if an LT participant lies on their application and there weren't extenuating circumstances the result will be that they can not attend LT the program.


What happens if an applicant does not want to list their struggles on the assessment? 

There have been instances where participants did not feel comfortable sharing all of their struggles online in the assessment. We will then work with the local church to gather that information in person with the applicant. Here is a section of an email that was sent to an applicant who sent an email to Reliant saying that they did not feel comfortable with sharing online and requested just telling their local church pastor and not Reliant.

...The LT program is an event administrated by both Reliant and Collegiate. Your church pastor is both a pastor for the Collegiate network and he is employed by Reliant and his role this summer is Collegiate LT director. Reliant does a lot of the administrative work for the Collegiate missionaries and we run the behind the scenes admin for the LT programs. In order for Reliant to be able to provide liability insurance for the LT programs we have to have an assessment and a review vetting process for all of our applicants that helps us make sure the Leadership Training program (the summer ministry designed to help train leaders for our local churches) is the best fit for those applying.

I can understand the concern for putting your struggles online in this day and age. So, Reliant would be fine with you meeting with a local church leader to share your answers in person if that would make you feel more comfortable with sharing.  However, because Reliant is the administrator for the event, that local church leader will then need to share what you tell him with Reliant before we could move forward with the assessment process. He can speak in generalities (we do not need specific details), but we do need to know for insurance and liability reasons if there are any concerns.  So, I wanted to make sure that you understood and knew that your church leader would still be sharing that information with Reliant after you share it with him.

ACCEPTANCE CONCERNS DECIDED ON THE LOCAL PASTOR/PROGRAM DIRECTOR LEVEL

There may be other concern scenarios where Reliant would like the program director and/or local pastor to be aware and to give their consent before approval/acceptance, but Reliant is not requiring a follow up meeting between the local pastor and event participant and Reliant will not send a conditional acceptance email unless requested by the director. These are concerns that Reliant wants to get director approval for, but we do not seem them as serious enough to need follow up discussion with the students (unless the director requests it).

Those scenarios include, but are not limited to:

  • Depression/anxiety (seeing a counselor and/or taking medication but it seems under control)

  • Alcohol usage (habitual underage drinking and/or lack of seeing underage drinking as an issue)

  • Sexual purity (continued issue and/or no accountability listed)

  • Pornography/masturbation (continued issue and/or no accountability listed),

  • Multiple concerns listed

  • Spiritual reference is unaware of the struggles listed by the participant

  • or the spiritual reference listed struggles that the participant did not.

We want to leave the final acceptance decision of these concerns in the hands of the local pastor and director that will be with the participant all summer.



RELIANT AND THE PROGRAM DIRECTORS DECIDE ACCEPTANCE  TOGETHER

Those scenarios include, but are not limited to: 

  • severe depression/anxiety (hospitalized, panic attacks)
  • any kind of self harm/abuse (eating disorders, cutting, etc.)
  • suicidal thoughts or attempts
  • substance abuse (drunkenness, prescription drug abuse, etc.)
  • illegal drugs
  • sexual addiction
  • parental issues
  • multiple (more serious) concerns listed
  • their spiritual reference is unaware of the serious struggles listed by the participant
  • or their spiritual reference listed more serious concerns that the participant did not.  

These above scenarios do not mean automatic Reliant rejection from program acceptance. It just means additional follow up for information and email trails to be able to provide legal protection for Reliant and the program to prove we did our due diligence. These scenarios may include Reliant asking the director or designated representative to discuss with the local pastor to follow up with the individual participant with an in-person interview discussing the concerns and then giving Reliant their candid thoughts prior to potential acceptance. It will then include the overall approval of the director as well as the approval of Reliant. It may also include requiring the participant to have continued follow up meetings with a pastor during the program.  It will almost always include a conditional acceptance email from Reliant that is sent to the participant which strengthens our written legal protection for the program to show that we did our due diligence. For those struggling with emotional issues or self-harm there may be additional steps taken prior to acceptance such as asking a counselor's opinion or having them continue counseling over the summer.  See Conditions for Acceptance for more details on conditions and the conditional acceptance email.

PROGRAM DIRECTORS DISCUSS WITH LOCAL PASTOR/SPIRITUAL REFERENCES

Here are steps that we suggest the director taking once they receive an email from Reliant saying they have a concerned participant and Reliant is asking for them to follow up with the local pastor/spiritual reference and meet one on one with the participant to discuss the concerns.

  • Text the local pastor or spiritual reference listed on the application to set up a time to discuss the concerns.
  • Call and talk through the concerns with the pastor/spiritual reference and explain the below expectations. 

-Ask them to help you know more about who the person is and what you would be getting into by accepting them into the program. 
-Discuss specific questions that you would want them to ask the participant in regards to the specific concerns.
-Remind them to take notes and report back via email so that we have written documentation about how we handled the concern.
-Explain the process to them so that they know what our expectations are:

    • We are asking them to follow up one on one with the concerned participant and discuss the concerns in more detail. We want to explain to the participant that we care about them and our heart is to help them have a good experience during the program and we want to figure out the best place for them if that's to attend or not to attend the program. 
    • If we feel like the best place is the attend the program, then let them know there will likely be conditions put in place for them to follow (for example meeting with a staff member bi-weekly for accountability and/or asking them to refrain from what they are doing, etc.)  and make sure that they are willing to agree to those conditions. 
    • Let the participant know that if we decide to move forward with acceptance, they will be receiving a conditional email. The email will sound more formal and perhaps a little intense and will list policies and conditions that we are asking them to agree to follow. The wording on the email has been created for liability reasons so it will sound more legal and less friendly so we just want to let them know so that they are not surprised by the way it is worded. 
  • After the call with the local pastor or spiritual reference, send an email to them explaining everything that was just discussed over the phone again as a way to remind them in written form what you discussed. Ask them to report back details from the conversation with the participant by replying back to this email so that we have it documented in written form the student's responses and the pastor/spiritual reference's recommendation of whether or not they feel like we should accept the participant  
  • The director would then forward that email along with the director's recommendation and a list of any conditions the director recommends to Reliant (and Collegiate NEB member for LT programs). Reliant will then review the situation and decide if additional conditions need to be added and whether or not they agree with the recommendation to move forward with the acceptance. 
  • If Reliant decides to move forward with the conditional acceptance, the director would then assign a staff accountability person to meet with the participant and hold the participant accountable during the program to the conditions that have been put in place. We suggest finding someone who has a shepherd heart and also clearly identify this as part of the role prior to the beginning of the program. If possible, have the staff member reach out to the participant before they arrive at the program to begin discussions and gain trust. 


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We have had a few national reviews where we uncover that they have struggled with suicidal concerns prior to 6 months ago. As a formality we said that all of those still needed a national review before moving forward. The heart behind that was related to how severe the past self-harm struggle was, how close to 6 months ago it occurred, do they still have suicidal thoughts, etc. and to show that we did our due diligence by having multiple eyes on it before acceptance.

However, if Collegiate reviewer finds out that there is no current self-harm thoughts and a normal acceptance is recommended we do not need to present this concern to the National Reviewers. This would be only for those that Collegiate Reviews recommend as normal acceptance (no conditions at all for acceptance) because the self-harm (thoughts or actions) is no longer happening. If self-harm is still somewhat in the picture and they are recommending conditions it would still come to national review for more eyes to view the situation.



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Here's an example of a follow up between a local church leadership and an event director for LT and a participant with emotional concerns. Reliant asked them to find out more about the frequency and severity of panic attacks that the student had listed on her application. The LT director called the leader to discuss it and then followed up with this email to help remind them of what they had discussed. The leader then added the answers from the student (in bold) to the email based on the discussion with the student.  

Like we talked about on the phone, I’d love for you to set up a time to meet with this student as soon as you can.  In this meeting please let her know and ask about these things:
1.  Tell her we are very excited that she wants to come to LT.  We hope that it will be an amazing summer for her!
2.  Let her know that on her application she mentioned that she has about 2-3 panic attacks per month.  We want her to be set up to have a great summer and to be cared for by us, the staff.
        a.  Ask her what her panic attacks looks like.

She said she experiences a rapid heart rate/ heart racing, dizziness/feels like the room is spinning, difficulty breathing. She said that 2-3 times a month number was her best estimate/average at the time, but that she has experienced fewer lately.

  1. Ask her how long they typically last

She said they typically last about 5-10 minutes depending on how quickly she is able to remove herself from the situation. She said when these occur, she tries to leave the environment/ situation, focus on her breathing and meditating on what she is feeling and why.

  1. Ask her if it would serve her to have an older staff woman be available for her that she can look to in times of need.  I (LT director) would assign someone and recommend that they meet in the first couple days of LT and for that staff member to check in during the first 3 weeks.

Yes, she’s very open to this!

Let us know how she responds.  The emphasis is that we really want to care for her during her time out here this summer!!!




SEE ALSO: Conditions for Acceptance