You already have categories of relationships, but maybe you’ve never thought about it before. Who do you call when you want to do something adventurous? Who do you turn to when you are having a rough day? Who can you be yourself around, because they have known you forever? Who would you ask for advice about your health, about your job, about parenting, or who to date? These are probably not all the same person! Similarly, once you get to the field no one person will be able to meet every aspect of care for you.
As you form a care team, we’ve compiled the key categories to think through, as well as tips for identifying the right people (and letting them know you need them!) In the busyness of American culture, you may be tempted to feel like you are being a burden to others. Remember, this is an amazing opportunity for believers, who may not be able to go themselves, to have an active role in God’s mission overseas.
While each person will bring a unique contribution, here are some general quality to look for:
- Someone whom you trust to give Biblical, not worldly wisdom
- Someone from whom you can easily receive input, that does so in a gracious way
- Someone who is faithful to commitments, not known for being flakey
- Someone who has the time capacity to come alongside you
- Someone who has some experience with cross-cultural ministry
If you are new to Reliant, a template will be found in your International Checklist. If you have been on a staff for a while and would like to form a care team, you can make a copy of this template.
Additional Tips
- Go for consistency over frequency. Consider setting aside a regular time every week to meet with one of your virtual people. Then try to work through your list at least once a quarter.
- Use a video messaging app like Marco Polo when your schedules just don’t seem to line up.
- Spend a few minutes preparing for a meeting. What do you want to make sure to talk about or ask? Is there anything you need to bring to the Lord before you bring to another person? This can help you utilize the time well.
- Keep a journal where you can jot notes from the call and review before you meet again.
- If an important person on your list does not have experience with cross-cultural ministry, invite them to read a book that gives context for things you may experience on the field. I.e. Serving as Senders Today.
- Unsure of who might fill some of these roles? Don’t worry or be discouraged. Ask God to bring the right people into your life.